“You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.” ― Amy Bloom
Angelina’s lips, Rihanna’s body, Beyonce’s skin, Aniston’s legs, our wish list is never ending, isn’t it? There are parts of our body we would happily swap for someone else’s in a heartbeat.
We mere mortals, who are we to compare ourselves with the perfect supermodels of this world? It’s just unfair; it seems that the universe gives them EVERYTHING and we are stuck with wobbly bellies, bingo wings, big hips and a 100 other imperfections! You think??!!
“The Victoria Secret Supermodels are some of the most insecure people I’ve ever met” Miranda Kerr told Cosmopolitan. No way, is she serious? She totally is! Even the legend Naomi Campbell has had panic attacks on the runway, Kate Moss hates her bow legs, Meryl Streep thought she was too ugly to be an actress!!
We ALL have our insecurities; no matter who we are and mine I confess have been my chicken legs. Yes, it’s true. Right up until my 20’s I was so conscious of my legs and even now it’s my least favorite part. It’s silly I admit, but it’s been a confidence stealer at times. When I tell my friends about it they laugh at me and tell me I am being ridiculous, they love my legs they say! But I know how I felt, and sometimes when someone (even in a good natured way) pointed out how skinny my legs are/were - there it was, that same insecurity. I was conscious and focused on my legs again.
Over the years, I have come to deal with it of course, and here’s how. When I dress up and look in the mirror, I focus on all of the things I love about my body. I actually focus on what I love about what I am wearing and how it’s making me feel. I have accepted that I have skinny legs and that’s really not going to change. So I have two options, I wear long skirts and pants for the rest of my life, or accept my skinny pins and wear what I know looks great.
Now for someone who is passionate about helping people look and feel great – I know that even I have certain styles that I can’t/shouldn’t wear. Hot shorts are definitely out of the question. :) The way to deal with your insecurities is to wear styles that flatter your body. Be honest with yourself, accept your wobbly bits and learn how to show off the bits you love about your body.
I know a girl who I worked with, who always commented on my skinny legs by calling me ‘chicken legs’. She knew perfectly well, I didn’t like it, yet she always made it a point to comment. Where is she now? Out of my life. That’s it; you don’t need negative people in your life. You need people who raise you up and cheer you on. Most of our insecurities are self-made and in our own heads, and if you have people around who play on your insecurities, you will never let go of them.
Love your body… we ALL have our BEST bits… find yours. Xx